"Where you stumble and fall, there you will find gold."
There’s a thread you follow. It goes among
things that change. But it doesn’t change.
People wonder about what you are pursuing.
You have to explain about the thread.
But it is hard for others to see.
While you hold it you can’t get lost.
Tragedies happen; people get hurt
or die; and you suffer and get old.
Nothing you do can stop time’s unfolding.
You don’t ever let go of the thread.
We may all need a bit of help or support from time to time. And it can be hard to find someone you feel comfortable sharing with. Perhaps you’ve talked with somebody about a difficulty you’ve faced and it hasn’t felt as though that’s helped so far?
We all face times of uncertainty. You might be facing economic concerns – job security, worries about income and financial security.
Perhaps you recognise recurrent patterns in your life – in relationships, the way you make decisions, or react to situations you find yourself in.
Maybe you sometimes – or often – feel lonely: that’s not uncommon.
You might feel stuck, unable to make decisions, to move forward, or make changes in your life.
Possibly there are situations that leave you feeling disempowered – feeling excluded, invisible, discriminated against, bullied, or being the target of coercive control. Or you experience racism and are needing to express the toll it takes on you.
Or maybe you recognise that troubling events in the past continue to have a hold on you, affecting your present life, but you don’t feel able to shift things.
Relationship dynamics – at home, with family, friends or at work, may replicate old patterns – may leave you feeling unsafe, scapegoated, disempowered or abused.
Or you might have questions about your identity, gender identification or sexuality, and how you – and others – communicate about this.
It could be you’re recovering from the shock of bereavement, or are facing other causes of grief and loss – loss of a job, moving into a new phase of life (facing a serious or life-limiting health diagnosis, retirement, children leaving home, and other experiences that might be life-changing).
These are the sorts of experiences that most, if not all, of us might face at one time or another.
And you are unique. Finding the right person for you, at the right time, is an important and very personal choice. Listen to your instincts. Don’t feel rushed. It needs time and care to find a counsellor you feel comfortable to work with.